Every Christmas season, commuting is one of the biggest headache we had, especially few years back when we haven't gotten Lexah yet.
In malls, you have to fall in line for hours to get a cab, most of the time. And when you tried to call a cab along the street, you need to negotiate with the driver just to get home. Sometimes, they haggle for an additional Php50 or ask you for 3x your regular fare.
Most cab driver don't wanna get stuck in traffic [who would want to, anyway?] that's why they're very choosy with their passenger... they wanted a short distance trip or just around the area. If you're from the far side of Metro Manila [including Taguig] they will refuse to take you there with lots of alibis.
It really pisses me off!!!
Sometimes, I get in the cab first before telling the driver of my where-to. So they will have no choice but to take me there. But there are still lots of drivers who will kick [exag!] you out of their cab. Haist! This is the life of a commuter who wanted to go home and rest after a long day of super toxic workload or shopping spree.
I'm glad that the Department of Transportation and Communications (DOTC) is doing something about this. There's a campaign, Oplan Isnabero, implemented a long time ago. I just don't know if abusive drivers have been penalized already. Anyway, we can help. As far as I know, they needed 3 complains to reprimand the driver.
Here's DOTC hotline number: 7890
We may also send complain through text: 0917-247-0385 / 0919-222-74-62.
Just text the plate number and complainant's name.
Now, agencies LTO or LTFRB will just call the complainant's number to verify the complain. Unlike previous year, complainant needs to show up to these agency to validate the complain. Well, at least there's an improvement.
Oh by the way, Merry Christmas!!! ^_^
This is my journal. Join me as I journey through my life's ups and downs. It may not always be good but I will try my best to look at the brighter side. God has a perfect plan and thy Will be done. ~ Chec
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Wish List 2010
Since Christmas time na naman. Pressured nanaman ako. Pressured magisip what I wanted for Christmas. Santa might be waiting for my letter! OMG! So here is my letter.
Dear Santa,
You know I've been good naman di ba? Sometimes lang I got naughty pero sorry na ha! ^_^ Hope I still get a gift on Christmas eve. Wala man kami chimney nasa sala lang naman yung Christmas tree namin. You can go anytime. I won't prepare you cookies and milk na ha?! kasi you're getting fat na eh. Diet na tayo next year, samahan kita! ^_^
So, here's my wishes...
1. Flower by Kenzo
2. A book I find interesting. Duh??!?! by Francis Kong
3. Bag
Yun lang muna or now. Wala na ako maisip eh. hihihi.
Thank you Santa! Merry Christmas! Ho Ho Ho Ho
Love,
Chique
Dear Santa,
You know I've been good naman di ba? Sometimes lang I got naughty pero sorry na ha! ^_^ Hope I still get a gift on Christmas eve. Wala man kami chimney nasa sala lang naman yung Christmas tree namin. You can go anytime. I won't prepare you cookies and milk na ha?! kasi you're getting fat na eh. Diet na tayo next year, samahan kita! ^_^
So, here's my wishes...
1. Flower by Kenzo
2. A book I find interesting. Duh??!?! by Francis Kong
3. Bag
Yun lang muna or now. Wala na ako maisip eh. hihihi.
Thank you Santa! Merry Christmas! Ho Ho Ho Ho
Love,
Chique
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Tax Exemption for Benefactor of PWD
On the other hand, the benefactor of a person with disability may only be entitled to claim the new additional exemption of P 25,000 per qualified dependent child (not exceeding four) if the person with disability is his/her legitimate, illegitimate or legally-adopted child, whether minor or of legal age. In other words, for purposes of additional exemption, the “benefactor” will not be entitled to the additional exemption unless that benefactor is a “parent” of the person with disability.
The privileges under the Act and in these Regulations available to persons with disability who are Filipino citizens may only be granted upon presentation of any of the following proof of his/her entitlement thereto:
a. An identification card issued by the city or municipal mayor or the barangay captain of the place where the person with disability resides; or
b. The passport of the person with disability concerned; or
c. Transportation discount fare Identification Card (ID) issued by the National Council for the Welfare o f Disabled Persons (NCWDP).
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Christmas Time na!!!
We’ve already built our little christmas tree. Yey! Very challenging talaga mag decorate hahaha! di bale its worth the effort naman eh…
Forty nine ( 49 ) days na lang birthday na ni baby Jesus! I can’t wait ^ _ ^
Count down begins…
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Oh my Senpai!
Just finished playing Persona 3 Portable. [Yey!]
LV 79 Kenji Yokomo [♂] >> [The name I gave to my male character! cute noh?]
PLAY TIME: 127 hrs 55 mins [Given I only have and average of 2 hrs a day. ]
Difficulty: NORMAL
Persona 3 Portable |
FYI. The Japanese word "senpai," means a senior or superior in any academic or corporate organization in our society. 1
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Pinoy Chicken Barbecue Recipe
Early this afternoon, I said I wanted a chicken barbeque and baked talong for dinner tonight. I could die in excitement just thinking about it! hahaha ^_^ So here's the best Chicken Marinade recipe I found from Overseas Pinoy Cooking.
Ingredients:
2 kilo chicken leg
1/2 cup soy sauce
1/4 cup kalamansi or lemon extract
1 cup Sprite or 7-UP
2 tbsp Worcestershire sauce
1/4 cup tomato ketchup
1/2 cup brown sugar
1/2 head garlic, crushed
1 tbsp. salt
large bamboo skewers
cooking oil
Cooking procedure:
Wash chicken legs and drain. Slit open chicken leg along the length to expose the bones. In a big container with lid combine marinade except oil. Now put in chicken, allow marinade to fully coat the chicken, Arrange side by side chicken cover with the lid and marinate for at least 4 hours or overnight in the refrigerator. When ready to grill skew each chicken legs in bamboo skewers, Prepare basting sauce by adding cooking oil to left over marinade. Grill at medium to high heat for 5-8 minutes on each side, baste in between. Do not overcook, it should be moist inside, just cooked and slightly burnt outside. Serve with your favourite dipping sauce.
Baked talong:
Cut eggplant into four parts and cut to half. Fry and set aside. Saute chopped garlic, onion and tomatoes. Sprinkle salt and pepper to taste. Cook until tomatoes are well done. Put it as toppings to eggplant and baked for few minutes.
Sorry I forgot to take a photo so I just grab one from the site. There's always a next time. ^_^
Ingredients:
2 kilo chicken leg
1/2 cup soy sauce
1/4 cup kalamansi or lemon extract
1 cup Sprite or 7-UP
2 tbsp Worcestershire sauce
1/4 cup tomato ketchup
1/2 cup brown sugar
1/2 head garlic, crushed
1 tbsp. salt
large bamboo skewers
cooking oil
Cooking procedure:
Wash chicken legs and drain. Slit open chicken leg along the length to expose the bones. In a big container with lid combine marinade except oil. Now put in chicken, allow marinade to fully coat the chicken, Arrange side by side chicken cover with the lid and marinate for at least 4 hours or overnight in the refrigerator. When ready to grill skew each chicken legs in bamboo skewers, Prepare basting sauce by adding cooking oil to left over marinade. Grill at medium to high heat for 5-8 minutes on each side, baste in between. Do not overcook, it should be moist inside, just cooked and slightly burnt outside. Serve with your favourite dipping sauce.
Baked talong:
Cut eggplant into four parts and cut to half. Fry and set aside. Saute chopped garlic, onion and tomatoes. Sprinkle salt and pepper to taste. Cook until tomatoes are well done. Put it as toppings to eggplant and baked for few minutes.
Sorry I forgot to take a photo so I just grab one from the site. There's always a next time. ^_^
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Monday, October 18, 2010
Personality Patterns
by Gild
Extraversion is the tendency to direct one's attention externally, toward others and the environment. People who are extraverted tend to be assertive and active, energetic and confident, talkative and gregarious, and often experience positive emotions.
Agreeableness reflects the tendency to be warm, helpful, friendly, and trusting, getting along easily with others, and maintaining social relationships over long periods of time.
Conscientiousness reflects the tendency to control, regulate, and manage one's impulses. Conscientious people tend to be efficient, well-organized, reliable, and responsible.
Stability is a tendency to feel calm and free of chronic negative emotions such as anxiety and depression. People who are emotionally stable tend to experience fewer mood swings, and tend to handle stress and pressure well.
Openness refers to a tendency to be interested and curious about many things. Generally, open people tend to be creative, imaginative, intellectual, and to appreciate arts and culture.
Extraversion is the tendency to direct one's attention externally, toward others and the environment. People who are extraverted tend to be assertive and active, energetic and confident, talkative and gregarious, and often experience positive emotions.
Agreeableness reflects the tendency to be warm, helpful, friendly, and trusting, getting along easily with others, and maintaining social relationships over long periods of time.
Conscientiousness reflects the tendency to control, regulate, and manage one's impulses. Conscientious people tend to be efficient, well-organized, reliable, and responsible.
Stability is a tendency to feel calm and free of chronic negative emotions such as anxiety and depression. People who are emotionally stable tend to experience fewer mood swings, and tend to handle stress and pressure well.
Openness refers to a tendency to be interested and curious about many things. Generally, open people tend to be creative, imaginative, intellectual, and to appreciate arts and culture.
Saturday, October 16, 2010
You Are Blessed!
On this day, God wants you to know
"... that you are blessed. You may think you have challenges, but you have so many blessings. Sometimes it takes only a moment of conscious effort to recognize those blessings. Once you focus on the gifts instead of the problems, your whole perspective will change and you will see blessings everywhere."
"...that you've been talking to God too much, and not listening enough. Prayer is when you talk to God. Meditation is when you become quiet and listen to God. You've learned how to talk and ask well. Time to learn how to listen and hear, because God has been answering you."
"Trials are blessings from God in another form, be grateful for each trial that comes your way, for God is teaching you to keep your faith on Him...."
"Learning to wait on God is one of the most valuable lessons you can learn. Have faith; everything is beautiful in His way!"
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Bad Beauty Habits To Break
I got this from Oprah. I just listed 10 bad habits I can relate to.
1. Don't put too much makeup on your forehead. Since our forehead moves in every facial expression, it will crinkle the foundation. "Dot foundation only on your cheeks, chin, and nose; then blend extra product up into your hairline." ~ Napoleon Perdis, a makeup artist.
2. Don't rub your hair with a towel. Instead, wrap hair in a towel, lightly press with your palms to help it absorb as much water as possible, and then use a wide-tooth comb to eliminate tangles, says trichologist Philip Kingsley.
3. Matching your brows to your hair color.
4. Don't Shave Your Legs After a Long Soak in the Tub. Shave within five to ten minutes after stepping into the shower, when the warm water has softened your skin and hair.
5. Don't Spritz Fragrance Directly on Your Hair. Let the alcohol evaporates first.
6. Don't Line Your Lips Before Applying Lipstick. "Apply your lipstick; then use a lip liner to trace around the edges," he said. "The liner will glide on more smoothly than it does on a bare mouth, leaving a more natural outline but still creating a barrier against bleeding." To avoid ring-around-the-mouth, use a pencil that matches your lipstick shade, nothing darker.
7. Don't Get Too Close to the Mirror When You Pluck Your Brows.
8. Don't Brush Your Hair When It's Wet. You should detangle hair right after you wash it, but use a wide-toothed comb.
9. File in one direction only. Crystal files are good, but never use a metal one (too hard).
10. Conditioner should be used strategically and sparingly. Apply a half-dollar-size amount to the midsection and ends of the hair, since these areas have been subjected to months of sun and styling damage. Don't treat your roots, because they're already coated with the scalp's natural oils; additional emollients will just weigh hair down, making it limp.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Pnoy: Report kay Boss
President Benigno Aquino III's first 100 days report.
I'll give you my two thumbs up! ^_^
I'll give you my two thumbs up! ^_^
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Road Trip
It has been more than two years since I left Globalink after 8 long years of working with them. Half of my colleagues have already explored other opportunities outside. But the friendship we built forms a powerful bond between us.
From time to time, we set one free day for our get together. [Sometimes, it's hard to set a schedule for everyone without conflict with another. But if there's a wheel, there's a way! And never say die! ^_^] We do some catching up with each other. We talk about one's love life. We talk about one's career path. Sometimes, we enjoyed teasing one person. We sat on a coffee shop and chit chat for hours.
Although this happens only twice or thrice a year, It feels good to gather everyone together (or at least most of us). It feels good to be with family. The GHC-SJF-TSG Family. (Maam Amor, Kuya Jon/Malou, May/Reynold, Hya, Eillen/Bernie, Chay, Denver, Chique/Mannix, Ryan, Jhen, Jared, Michelle/Norman, Chito, Bhelle, Jayee Raymond and Abbie.)
From time to time, we set one free day for our get together. [Sometimes, it's hard to set a schedule for everyone without conflict with another. But if there's a wheel, there's a way! And never say die! ^_^] We do some catching up with each other. We talk about one's love life. We talk about one's career path. Sometimes, we enjoyed teasing one person. We sat on a coffee shop and chit chat for hours.
Although this happens only twice or thrice a year, It feels good to gather everyone together (or at least most of us). It feels good to be with family. The GHC-SJF-TSG Family. (Maam Amor, Kuya Jon/Malou, May/Reynold, Hya, Eillen/Bernie, Chay, Denver, Chique/Mannix, Ryan, Jhen, Jared, Michelle/Norman, Chito, Bhelle, Jayee Raymond and Abbie.)
"We must not let the grass grow on the road of friendship."
Tagaytay Road Trip (October 2010) ^_^
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Team Building
I just had a fun fun fun Friday night! Enjoyed our unlimited bowling game and sumptuous dinner together Software Solutions team and other department.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Sudoku Online
Feeling bored? How about relaxing while enhancing your brain waves. Sounds like a promotional lines from a television ad, eh?! ^_^
Exercise is always good for our mind and body. Workout your mind so it won't get rusty. Try solving this one... from http://www.websudoku.com/
This has been may favorite past time. I bought a couple of booklets with different level.
Exercise is always good for our mind and body. Workout your mind so it won't get rusty. Try solving this one... from http://www.websudoku.com/
This has been may favorite past time. I bought a couple of booklets with different level.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Chocolate. Antidepressant?
Researchers have found that chocolate can make some people who are prone to depression less anxious and less irritable. 1
How does it work?
It's believed substances in chocolate called endorphins and opoids, may be responsible for the mood enhancing effect. These compounds may make you feel more relaxed, thereby reducing stress and anxiety and improving mood. 2
It works for me! ^_^
I love chocolate when i'm depressed especially Snickers Almonds!!! I've been feeling down again lately. So I grab bar from 7-11! And tadah! I'm feeling okay now! hehehe! You should try one but just in moderation. c",)
How does it work?
It's believed substances in chocolate called endorphins and opoids, may be responsible for the mood enhancing effect. These compounds may make you feel more relaxed, thereby reducing stress and anxiety and improving mood. 2
It works for me! ^_^
I love chocolate when i'm depressed especially Snickers Almonds!!! I've been feeling down again lately. So I grab bar from 7-11! And tadah! I'm feeling okay now! hehehe! You should try one but just in moderation. c",)
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Once a Week, Write a Heartfelt Letter
I was reading one of my favorite book, "Don't sweat the small stuff" to Andrea last night. One of Dr. Richard Carlson's, the author, suggestion is to write a heartfelt letter to someone every week. Hmmmnn... Why don't I give it a try. It is said that it will make you more peaceful and loving. Then I remember Bhelle's letter challenges.Who knows! This might change my life. ^_^
Here is the 30 day letter challenge, you are supposed to write a letter to several different people. [Maybe I'll write in random order!]
* 1 — Your Best Friend
* 2 — Your Crush
* 3 — Your parents
* 4 — Your sibling (or closest relative)
* 5 — Your dreams
* 6 — A stranger
* 7 — Your Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/love/crush
* 8 — Your favorite internet friend
* 9 — Someone you wish you could meet
* 10 — Someone you don’t talk to as much as you’d like to
* 11 — A Deceased person you wish you could talk to
* 12 — The person you hate most/caused you a lot of pain
* 13 — Someone you wish could forgive you
* 14 — Someone you’ve drifted away from
* 15 — The person you miss the most
* 16 — Someone that’s not in your state/country
* 17 — Someone from your childhood
* 18 — The person that you wish you could be
* 19 — Someone that pesters your mind—good or bad
* 20 — The one that broke your heart the hardest
* 21 — Someone you judged by their first impression
* 22 — Someone you want to give a second chance to
* 23 — The last person you kissed
* 24 — The person that gave you your favorite memory
* 25 — The person you know that is going through the worst of times
* 26 — The last person you made a pinky promise to
* 27 — The friendliest person you knew for only one day
* 28 — Someone that changed your life
* 29 — The person that you want tell everything to, but too afraid to
* 30 — Your reflection in the mirror
So... Good luck to me! ^_^
Here is the 30 day letter challenge, you are supposed to write a letter to several different people. [Maybe I'll write in random order!]
* 1 — Your Best Friend
* 2 — Your Crush
* 3 — Your parents
* 4 — Your sibling (or closest relative)
* 5 — Your dreams
* 6 — A stranger
* 7 — Your Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/love/crush
* 8 — Your favorite internet friend
* 9 — Someone you wish you could meet
* 10 — Someone you don’t talk to as much as you’d like to
* 11 — A Deceased person you wish you could talk to
* 12 — The person you hate most/caused you a lot of pain
* 13 — Someone you wish could forgive you
* 14 — Someone you’ve drifted away from
* 15 — The person you miss the most
* 16 — Someone that’s not in your state/country
* 17 — Someone from your childhood
* 18 — The person that you wish you could be
* 19 — Someone that pesters your mind—good or bad
* 20 — The one that broke your heart the hardest
* 21 — Someone you judged by their first impression
* 22 — Someone you want to give a second chance to
* 23 — The last person you kissed
* 24 — The person that gave you your favorite memory
* 25 — The person you know that is going through the worst of times
* 26 — The last person you made a pinky promise to
* 27 — The friendliest person you knew for only one day
* 28 — Someone that changed your life
* 29 — The person that you want tell everything to, but too afraid to
* 30 — Your reflection in the mirror
So... Good luck to me! ^_^
Friday, August 27, 2010
Ms Perfect Venus Raj
Miss Philippines 2010 Venus Raj was the crowd favorite. But she was not able to win the crown because of the judge William Baldwin's question.
She could have won the crown and gave our country much pride and redeemed us a little bit from the tragic hostage crisis. But the tough question goes to her. It's really hard to admit a past mistake especially on an international tv, without thinking what would be its implication after the event. O well, maybe she's really not meant to win because nobody's perfect. And every one could make a mistake. She just have to give one. ^_^
Nevertheless, she is still a winner. Being on the top 5 is something else. So, Congratulation to Ms Venus Raj. I'm "very very" proud of you! ^_^
"What is one big mistake that you have made in your life and what did you do to make it right?"After she gave her "major major" answer, everyone says "uh oh!".
"Thank you so much sir for that wonderful question. Good evening ladies and gentlemen. Good evening Las Vegas! You know what sir in my 22 years of existence I can say there is nothing major major, I mean problem that I have done in my life because I am very confident with my family with the love that they are giving to me. So thank you so much that I am here"
She could have won the crown and gave our country much pride and redeemed us a little bit from the tragic hostage crisis. But the tough question goes to her. It's really hard to admit a past mistake especially on an international tv, without thinking what would be its implication after the event. O well, maybe she's really not meant to win because nobody's perfect. And every one could make a mistake. She just have to give one. ^_^
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Manila's bus siege
The hostage crisis was all over the news, radio and television, and on the internet. But I only learned about it on my way home. [Maybe I was too busy working on my project and other stuff.] I still was able to catch up with the live actions on TV. It was telecast live! and the whole world was watching!
There are lots of speculations why the hostage ended up with 8 death. Things like, It was the former policeman Rolando Mendoza's brothers fault. There are no coordination among the policemen on the crime scene. The whole thing was aired live on TV and radio and the hostage taker was able to monitor every move outside the bus. The authority failed to give in to his request. Lack of equipment.
With regards to Philippine security and Hongkong national's violent reaction about what happen, It could happen anywhere and to anyone! I feel sorry for the families who have lost their love ones who just wanted to go for a tour in our country. But the gunman did not particularly targeted the Hongkong nationals. It just happen that they are on that bus. So it's not fair to be angry to all Filipino's. I feel sorry for the OFWs in HK who were discriminated and greatly affected by the hostage crisis.
Let's just pray for the 8 souls, so they will have a peaceful travel up there. May the Lord be with us all.
There are lots of speculations why the hostage ended up with 8 death. Things like, It was the former policeman Rolando Mendoza's brothers fault. There are no coordination among the policemen on the crime scene. The whole thing was aired live on TV and radio and the hostage taker was able to monitor every move outside the bus. The authority failed to give in to his request. Lack of equipment.
According to British Army and Scotland Yard, Charles Shoebridge, there are 10 areas where Manila police could have done better. (Resource)
1) Determination
2) Lack of equipment
3) Lost of opportunity to shoot the gunman
4) Lost of opportunity to disarm the gunman
5) Satisfying the gunman's demand
6) Televised proceedings
7) No element of surprise
8) Safeguarding the public
9) Using the gunman's brother to negotiate
10) Insufficient training
Now the acronym SWAT ( Special Weapon And Tactics ) have different meanings: (source)
Sorry We Aren't Trained
Sugod, Wait, Atras, Tago
Sana Wag Ako Tamaan
Sobrang Wala Akong Training
With regards to Philippine security and Hongkong national's violent reaction about what happen, It could happen anywhere and to anyone! I feel sorry for the families who have lost their love ones who just wanted to go for a tour in our country. But the gunman did not particularly targeted the Hongkong nationals. It just happen that they are on that bus. So it's not fair to be angry to all Filipino's. I feel sorry for the OFWs in HK who were discriminated and greatly affected by the hostage crisis.
Let's just pray for the 8 souls, so they will have a peaceful travel up there. May the Lord be with us all.
Friday, August 20, 2010
I want a divorce.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
21 Things To Remember
Reposting from Pravsworld
1. No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission.
2. Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be.
3. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
4. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.
5. Success stops when you do.
6. When your ship comes in…. make sure you are willing to unload it.
7. You will never have it all together.
8. Life is a journey…not a destination. Enjoy the trip!
9. The biggest lie on the planet When I get what I want I will be happy.
10. The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
11. I’ve learned that ultimately , ‘takers’ lose and ‘givers’ win.
12. Life’s precious moments don’t have value, unless they are shared.
13. If you don’t start, it’s certain you won’t arrive.
14. We often fear the thing we want the most.
15. He or she who laughs……lasts.
16. Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.
17. Look for opportunities…not guarantees.
18. Life is what’s coming….not what was.
19. Success is getting up one more time.
20. Now is the most interesting time of all.
21. When things go wrong…..don’t go with them.
3. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
4. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.
5. Success stops when you do.
6. When your ship comes in…. make sure you are willing to unload it.
7. You will never have it all together.
8. Life is a journey…not a destination. Enjoy the trip!
9. The biggest lie on the planet When I get what I want I will be happy.
10. The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
11. I’ve learned that ultimately , ‘takers’ lose and ‘givers’ win.
12. Life’s precious moments don’t have value, unless they are shared.
13. If you don’t start, it’s certain you won’t arrive.
14. We often fear the thing we want the most.
15. He or she who laughs……lasts.
16. Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.
17. Look for opportunities…not guarantees.
18. Life is what’s coming….not what was.
19. Success is getting up one more time.
20. Now is the most interesting time of all.
21. When things go wrong…..don’t go with them.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
MMDA 101
PRINT AND KEEP A COPY IN YOUR CAR:
Number Coding Scheme:
1. No window hours: Makati , Malabon and Las Pinas. Number Coding is in effect from 7am to 7pm!The usual window hours is 10 am to 3 pm.
2. No number coding: Taguig, Marikina and Paranaque . So, feel free to roam around these cities anytime.
3. Pasig City has window hours of 9am to 4pm (note the 1 hour additional to the normal 10-3pm window).
4. San Juan has window hours now according to MMDA website.
5. Pasay City is implementing Number Coding except on the following roads:Ninoy Aquino Avenue, MIA Road, Domestic Road , Portions of Airport Road ,Sales Road , Tramo.
6. EDSA, C5, Pres. Diosdado Macapagal Avenue , Roxas Blvd ( Pasay ) have window hours regardless of the city (meaning one can drive via EDSA in Makati any day).
7. For the rest of Metro Manila (Caloocan, Mandaluyong, Manila, Muntinlupa,Navotas, parts of Pasay, Pateros, Quezon City, Taguig,and Valenzuela) number coding is in effect (window hours of 10am-3pm is also observed).
If any of these abuses seem familiar to you, Mr. Antonio Pagulayan(Personnel Officer) has asked that you call either the MMDA hotline (136) or call the METRO BASE at 0920 9389861 or 0920 9389875 and ask for an Inspectorate. They will send inspectors to the place where these MMDA officers are extorting, even while you are arguing out of your apprehension.
1.MMDA officers are not allowed to group together in order to apprehend.They are not even allowed to stand together in groups of 2 or more. The only time they are allowed to work together is for special operations (probably when they apprehend groups of buses for smoke belching)
2. Swerving IS NOT a traffic violation. Moving one lane to the left or right is not swerving, no matter where on the road you do it. And it is even less of a violation when you do it with a signal.Swerving is defined as shifting 2 or more lanes very quickly. So you can argue your way out of this, and call the Metro Base for help.
3. Sadly, using the yellow lane is a traffic violation and will get you a ticket.However, buses are really not allowed to go out of the yellow lane, so if you see selective apprehension of private cars only, you may complain.
4. MMDA has confirmed that your license MAY NOT BE CONFISCATED at a traffic apprehension.The only time they can do so is if you are part of an accident, or it is your third violation and you have not settled your fines yet. They are only allowed to give you a ticket, which you can contest. He recommends actually receiving the ticket in some instances, so that you can report the officer who did it.
5. Also, you are free to ask any of these officers for their "mission order", which is written by their supervisor.If they apprehend you for a violation that is not in their mission order for the day, you can report them and they will receive disciplinary action.
Number Coding Scheme:
1. No window hours: Makati , Malabon and Las Pinas. Number Coding is in effect from 7am to 7pm!The usual window hours is 10 am to 3 pm.
2. No number coding: Taguig, Marikina and Paranaque . So, feel free to roam around these cities anytime.
3. Pasig City has window hours of 9am to 4pm (note the 1 hour additional to the normal 10-3pm window).
4. San Juan has window hours now according to MMDA website.
5. Pasay City is implementing Number Coding except on the following roads:Ninoy Aquino Avenue, MIA Road, Domestic Road , Portions of Airport Road ,Sales Road , Tramo.
6. EDSA, C5, Pres. Diosdado Macapagal Avenue , Roxas Blvd ( Pasay ) have window hours regardless of the city (meaning one can drive via EDSA in Makati any day).
7. For the rest of Metro Manila (Caloocan, Mandaluyong, Manila, Muntinlupa,Navotas, parts of Pasay, Pateros, Quezon City, Taguig,and Valenzuela) number coding is in effect (window hours of 10am-3pm is also observed).
If any of these abuses seem familiar to you, Mr. Antonio Pagulayan(Personnel Officer) has asked that you call either the MMDA hotline (136) or call the METRO BASE at 0920 9389861 or 0920 9389875 and ask for an Inspectorate. They will send inspectors to the place where these MMDA officers are extorting, even while you are arguing out of your apprehension.
1.MMDA officers are not allowed to group together in order to apprehend.They are not even allowed to stand together in groups of 2 or more. The only time they are allowed to work together is for special operations (probably when they apprehend groups of buses for smoke belching)
2. Swerving IS NOT a traffic violation. Moving one lane to the left or right is not swerving, no matter where on the road you do it. And it is even less of a violation when you do it with a signal.Swerving is defined as shifting 2 or more lanes very quickly. So you can argue your way out of this, and call the Metro Base for help.
3. Sadly, using the yellow lane is a traffic violation and will get you a ticket.However, buses are really not allowed to go out of the yellow lane, so if you see selective apprehension of private cars only, you may complain.
4. MMDA has confirmed that your license MAY NOT BE CONFISCATED at a traffic apprehension.The only time they can do so is if you are part of an accident, or it is your third violation and you have not settled your fines yet. They are only allowed to give you a ticket, which you can contest. He recommends actually receiving the ticket in some instances, so that you can report the officer who did it.
5. Also, you are free to ask any of these officers for their "mission order", which is written by their supervisor.If they apprehend you for a violation that is not in their mission order for the day, you can report them and they will receive disciplinary action.
Monday, August 2, 2010
Fun Run
It was my first time to join a fun run. Me and my friends [Teetel & Raquel] joined Rexona Run along with thousand of participants. My goal is not to win but to walk finish the race and experience how it feels to be a runner.
It was atorture good experience! Although I had no preparations before the event. No jogging!? No hydrating!? Basta sugod lang! hihihi
The race was fun. It was so organized. There are lots of water and power drinks. Lots of marshalls too so you won't get lost. And the results are fast. [See Result] Kudos to the organizers.
My Experience.
I set my alarm to 3:00am for the run. But my friend Denver, who's running 21k, texted me as early as 2:45am to wake me up! So I took a shower. Wake up Raquel, who slept over our house. Then we have an egg sandwich and coffee for our breakfast. And at exactly 4:00am we're off the road! Woohoo!!!
Mannix drove us to Mall of Asia after picking up Teteel from her apartment. We have to be there before 5:00am because there will be some re-routing beyond 5am. After finding a parking slot, we had our DTag attached to our shoe lace and numbers to our singlet. Then we headed to the assembly place.
Runners for 21k were set off first then the 10k then us, 5k and 3k after. Warm up exercises were lead by the trainers up the stage. And a gunshot marks the start.
On my first 100 meters I was running along with everyone else. After that, I am catching up my breathe already. No I can't force myself! I walked on my own pace and enjoyed the view! Some runners were taking picture and documenting every kilometers they've reached. Some run in groups. Some were by themselves and were listening to their ipods.
I also heard someone shouting "Walk in the park!!!" Hmmpf! "Etchos ka!" hahaha!
When I reached the 3k signage, I sighed "3k pa lang?!!! 2k pa?!!!". Hahaha! I was cheering up myself. "2k nalang! GO Chique! GO Chique GO!" ^_^
It takes a lot of motivation to get to the finish line! And I am having some hallucinations already! hahaha! Just kidding!
At last! Time to beat for the next run! [0:59:36] Wew!
The result.Healthy body. Sexy body. Body pain. Sore feet. Fun. Experience.
It was a
The race was fun. It was so organized. There are lots of water and power drinks. Lots of marshalls too so you won't get lost. And the results are fast. [See Result] Kudos to the organizers.
My Experience.
I set my alarm to 3:00am for the run. But my friend Denver, who's running 21k, texted me as early as 2:45am to wake me up! So I took a shower. Wake up Raquel, who slept over our house. Then we have an egg sandwich and coffee for our breakfast. And at exactly 4:00am we're off the road! Woohoo!!!
Mannix drove us to Mall of Asia after picking up Teteel from her apartment. We have to be there before 5:00am because there will be some re-routing beyond 5am. After finding a parking slot, we had our DTag attached to our shoe lace and numbers to our singlet. Then we headed to the assembly place.
Runners for 21k were set off first then the 10k then us, 5k and 3k after. Warm up exercises were lead by the trainers up the stage. And a gunshot marks the start.
On my first 100 meters I was running along with everyone else. After that, I am catching up my breathe already. No I can't force myself! I walked on my own pace and enjoyed the view! Some runners were taking picture and documenting every kilometers they've reached. Some run in groups. Some were by themselves and were listening to their ipods.
I also heard someone shouting "Walk in the park!!!" Hmmpf! "Etchos ka!" hahaha!
When I reached the 3k signage, I sighed "3k pa lang?!!! 2k pa?!!!". Hahaha! I was cheering up myself. "2k nalang! GO Chique! GO Chique GO!" ^_^
It takes a lot of motivation to get to the finish line! And I am having some hallucinations already! hahaha! Just kidding!
At last! Time to beat for the next run! [0:59:36] Wew!
The result.
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